4th Quarter Blues — I Didn’t Come This Far to Only Come This Far, and Neither Did You

We are in the home stretch now, or so it seems, and as this doctor points out, it’s going to get weirder before it gets better.

It’s going to take some time before we trust that the pandemic is over. It’s going to take some time before we trust each other.

And let’s remember, for those who haven’t been vaccinated, we are still living in a dystopian thriller where vaccine-hunter Facebook groups search for available appointments, and our kids aren’t eligible and may not be for years.

Yes, it’s going to be a while, it already is weird, and we will feel the trauma to some degree for a lifetime.

But there’s also life to live, the last semester to get through, three more quarters of business to grow, and an example to set for our children. So how do we make progress when we both sense the light at the end of the tunnel and suspect it’s a mirage?

On the one hand, we are on the verge of relief, our President has a plan, and the medical community has shown tremendous grit and innovation. On the other, we have miles to go, have lost so much, and have been rocked to our cores.

It feels a bit like when you open a champagne bottle part way, and you know the explosion is coming, you see it foam and bubble; its stickiness is already becoming a mess. Still, you hesitate for a moment for fear of the inevitable pop, a slight flinch of uncertainty before you proceed.

It’s the anticipation of a return to normal while knowing the implausibility of a return to normal.

Plus, spring fever. So what can you do?

There’s only one thing.

You Keep Your Cool

You have not come so far to blow it in the fourth quarter. For all the armchair quarterbacks and sports fans out there, you know what it’s like when your team has the lead the entire game and then lets up, loses focus, or blows it in the final minutes. It’s devastating.

You weren’t disciplined for a year, masking up, washing hands, social distancing, staying home, not traveling for a year for nothing. You didn’t miss milestones with loved ones, vacations you looked forward to, and give up your favorite routines for nothing. You didn’t lose your social graces, come to terms with home school, Zoom, and Instacart, and watch your hands age ten years in one for nothing.

That you demonstrated so much endurance is a victory. Take the win. It was likely the culmination of unwavering relationships, business resiliency, emotional stability, deep empathy, unshakeable faith, and equanimity. You’ve obviously done some work.

There’s no such thing as not doing the work — it always catches up to us, one way or another. It’s a common misconception that if you avoid your issues, your life feels light and fun, but doing the work is not a luxury; it’s a survival skill.

It takes courage and discipline to address challenges and resolve problems. Still, it’s the best, and sometimes, the only way to build trust, breakthrough limitations, and create expansiveness — it’s how we let go of what isn’t working and make room for goodness, love, passion, and opportunity.

But you’re doing it, which is why you weathered the last year relatively intact. Bravo! Your determination, toughness, and awareness are an inspiration. Although the pandemic is coming to an end (fingers crossed), and the world is putting Vegas-level temptations in front of you, you’ve got this. Hang in a bit longer.

Your yoga, meditation, therapy, coaching, practice, personal growth, whatever your go-to good judgment stems from, has paid off. Celebrate by keeping your cool, rising above the weirdness, and soon enough, this will be a memory.

Media executive turned female founder, life and business coach for ambitious moms. Schedule your free strategy session at www.kristiandrus.com.

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