Entrepreneurial Musings — This is What it Feels Like to be a Female Founder
Today’s Goal: Be OK
I burned 469 calories as I outlined this
At CycleBar yesterday, the instructor started off our ride by saying, “today’s goal is to be OK.” It got my attention. I wondered where she was going with it. She went on to say, “be OK with where you are, how you’re showing up, what level you’re on, what speed you’re at, what effort you can give, what your body can and cannot do, and where you are in your journey.”
I was thinking about how hard it is for most of us to be OK in the moment, to not judge it, to not judge ourselves, to not be trapped in the past, or planning the future.
It’s why I go to CycleBar. I go to work out of course, but also to let go. Building a business is a slog. Stamina, resilience, and grit are vital. Working out gives me clarity. I can drop my heavy baggage at the door of the studio when I arrive, or shed it as I ride, but I leave lighter every time.
Productivity before pick up
I’m counting down the days until mid-August. That will be the first time in 8 years — yes, I said eight years — that’d I’ve had more than a 2-hour block of time to myself.
It will be the first time that all three of my children attend full-day school at the same school. It means I won’t have a baby or babies at home to snuggle, nurse, or play with. I won’t have toddlers to chase and pick up after and laugh with. I won’t have preschoolers to learn with, read to, or study the world with. I won’t have drop-off at a half-day school, then a mad rush to squeeze it all in — baby naps, dog walks, workouts, grocery store runs.
And it’s breaking my heart. How did we get here so soon?
But it is what it is, and I’m determined to capitalize. So, if I have to let my babies go forth in a cycle of life inevitability, then please let this time be one of the most motivating milestones I’ve ever anticipated.
Live like no one else, so that you can live like no one else — Dave Ramsey
Every day, I ask myself, what more can I do to be in a position to take full advantage of now and the future? The idea of moving from 2-hour blocks to 4- to 6-hour blocks is empowering, and a little daunting if I’m honest. There’s no excuse for not achieving my goals. It’s an opportunity to reclaim time, and you only get to do that a few exceptional times in your life. There’s no way I’m going to miss out on leveraging that for my business.
- I want to scale. Am I’m ready and is the timing right? How can I break the bond between time and money? I’m soft-launching a digital course this spring, with an all-out launch and campaign in the fall. ESM is a 10-week interactive video-based training program that teaches high-potential working moms strategies for starting a successful business.
- I want to cement the foundation that we’ve been establishing with our children. Did we do enough? How can we reinforce how much they mean to us and enhance their potential? We took career detours, gave up promotions, and pressed pause on ambition to embrace early childhood, to be here every single day, and it made all the difference.
- I want to connect with my husband to sustain our marriage and anticipate getting reacquainted when it’s our season again. Can the memories of the honeymoon phase sustain us? Will our shared vision for the future inspire us? We’ve been grinding and giving our all to the kids and the business. But soon, we will have more bandwidth for love.
- I want to work out consistently, so that when August comes and I get to step into new opportunities, I’m not hesitant or regretful, but fully confident about shining in the light. Am I too old to be launching? Am I smart enough, charismatic enough, relevant? There’s a sense of urgency and the realization that what will be will be. I will have put in the work.
Love, Money, and Time
What 3–5 things are you struggling with right now?
Is it your finances, your health, your relationships? It’s almost always some combination of love, money, and time.
What if instead of wishing for something you can’t have, regretting something that’s already happened, or being pissed off at being wronged; what if instead of sweating your situation, being afraid of what will happen, or trying to control the future, you simply said, “I’m here. I’m OK.”
What would happen if you rode a few more rides to lighten your load even more?
There’s infinite power in creating space. If whatever you can’t stop thinking about is crowding out your appreciation for any given moment, for the miracle of being alive, practice expansiveness.
Expansiveness comes with acceptance
Create room for more; create room for better. Let life reveal all the treasures it has in store for you.
Open your heart, raise your vibe, and rise above your current context. Widen your perspective and let your life be more inclusive. Keep going and keep growing.
Be open to the idea that you’ve outgrown your belief system and are ready for an upgrade.
What 3–5 things are you struggling with right now? Instead of listing frustrations, can you reframe them as goals? Can you articulate what you want?
Are you taking care of now and the future? Put another way, are you living your best life?
Entrepreneurship, parenthood, whatever path you are on can be a spiritual journey. Try defining your pursuit in terms of reclaiming your divine right to love and abundance. Expansiveness allows for the imagination it takes to conjure the energy to keep going until you have everything you’ve ever wanted.
“Be OK with where you are, how you’re showing up, what level you’re on, what speed you’re at, what effort you can give, what your body can and cannot do, and where you are in your journey.”