Her Mess is Better Than My Mess

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Why do we do that?!

Why do we compare ourselves to other people, other lives, and other situations we know nothing about?

They both embrace who they are. It’s the only way.

The three of us have ten kids between us, so I get the power of the present moment at a very visceral level, and on the other hand, if I’m not playing defense, we will not survive. There’s reality, and there’s an exquisite tension between being present and straddling the past and future.

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Why do we do that?!

Why do we think we have to be the right person to influence someone else, or that we have to be a leader or a visionary, smarter or more educated, credentialed or more qualified, have our ducks in a row or plotting a master plan?

But we live here.

Influence isn’t waiting until you are ready for a big reveal; it’s not the perfect strategy for creating the right messaging, at the right time, with the right number of followers. Or maybe it is if you are a billion-dollar brand, but you’re not. You’re you. And No One needs you to be so strategic or influential in that way.

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Life coach for women. Writer for 29 publications. Happiness, success, productivity, balance, leadership, inspiration. Follow me on Instagram @coachformoms.

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