I wonder if, as some suggested below, the reason we aren’t having the conversation is that motherhood is always changing, and we’re always having to settle in, as you say, yet we never feel truly settled.
There’s also this: we don’t talk about motherhood in all its truths, because it requires a great deal of surrender, and some moms just won’t. No judgment, but we tend to share with those who see the experience similarly, and the mother who is unwilling to let motherhood change her, perhaps doesn’t want the conversation.
I don’t know. I’m all in. Let the changes, and the surrender, and the conversation be a means of powerful transformation. I welcome the way it has and will enrich my life. Thanks for the food for thought. So good!