Mastering Life’s Balancing Act: Unveiling Mel Robbins’ ‘Let Them’ Theory and the Empowering ‘For Me’ Counterpart

If you’ve ever given your reflection a high-five in the mirror or counted down five-four-three-two-one-GO (like a rocket launch), you might know who Mel Robbins is.

I was one of the few living under a rock who hadn’t heard of Mel Robbins until a company reached out about helping me become like her, and by like her, I mean everywhere. They suggested we have similar styles.

I’ve followed her since then, but her recent viral Instagram post nails her appeal. If you’ve been living under the same rock, let me introduce you to Mel Robbins, a best-selling author (I haven’t read her books, but they are in my Libby queue) and prolific podcaster.

The viral post starts with, “I just heard about this thing called the “let them” theory. I freaking love this,” she says, “If your friends are not inviting you to brunch this weekend, let them. If the person that you’re attracted to is not interested in a commitment, let them. If your kids do not want to get up and go to that thing with you this week, let them.”

If a person in your life is not showing up for you the way you need them to, stop wasting your time and energy on forcing them to match your expectations and instead, “Let them be themselves because they are revealing who they are to you. Just let them. And then you get to choose what you do next.”

Letting others be who they are, not trying to control them, and focusing on yourself resonates so much, yet it’s a little infuriating. It’s so hard!

My desire to help, fix, and improve comes from the heart. I’m good at it, so I’m a life coach. And the part of me that feels infuriated is probably the same part of you that resists Let Them (which is the wise women version of ourselves who says, but if we were running sh*t, it would be better, and we certainly wouldn’t be in this mess). Still, everything isn’t ours to help, fix, and improve.

That said, I also appreciate that what feels like earnest, kind, invested behavior and recommendations to me can sometimes be perceived as annoying, meddling, and know-it-all (especially if you’re not my client or don’t know me). I know this because my family tells…



Kristi Andrus life and business coach

When I drop my kids off at school, I always kiss them and shout, BE AMAZING! Love your life, make the most of it, level up, and be amazing.